3 Reasons To Stop Covering Your Adult Kids’ Phone Bills, According to Suze Orman
Covering small expenses like a phone bill for your adult children might seem harmless, but according to personal finance expert Suze Orman, it can actually prevent them from achieving any long-term financial goal. Worst case, it could turn them into lazy, entitled monsters. Many parents continue paying for their grown kids' bills out of love or habit, but Orman has warned this practice can lead to long-term money problems for both parents and children.
In a LinkedIn post, Orman emphasized how important it is for parents to stop paying for even seemingly small expenses like phone bills to help their children become more financially independent.
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Paying Their Own Bills Can Build Financial Independence
In one of the most famous -- and funniest -- scenes from the 2010s-era HBO comedy series "Girls," perpetually petulant slacker and aspiring "voice of a generation" Hannah Horvath (Lena Dunham) sits across from her parents as they cut her off financially. While Hannah has spent hours at an unpaid internship, bopping around Brooklyn and discovering herself, Mom and Dad have been footing the bill for everything -- including her phone.
"We can't keep bankrolling your groovy lifestyle," her mother said, prompting Hannah to insist she's so close to the life she wants, her parents shouldn't end it now. The scene resonates because it has played out thousands of times in households around the country.
Orman would likely support Hannah's parents in their choice to make her stand on her own two feet, but she also understands why parents are so tempted to help young adults. After all, cell phone bills and streaming services seem like relatively minor expenses -- so why not make your kids' lives easier by covering them?
However, Orman has urged parents to flip their perspective: If the amount is truly small, that's exactly why young adults should be paying it themselves. Learning to manage even modest bills helps build a strong financial foundation.
"If it's a manageable amount, it won't be hard for them to take on. And that's a key step toward financial independence," Orman wrote. "Maybe it's the first bill they put on autopay -- helping them build responsible habits and a strong credit score. Every step counts on the road to financial freedom!"
Help Should Be Oriented Toward Goals
Hannah's parents may have had the right idea, but forcing her into total financial independence without helping her establish a financial safety net first might not be the wisest approach, either. Orman isn't against parents offering some financial help to their adult children, but believes it should be structured to help young adults develop financial skills.
In addition to having young adults pay for their own phone bills, streaming services and car insurance, Orman said adult children who move back home should chip in toward household expenses. Parents don't need to charge their twentysomethings the equivalent of a full market-rate mortgage or rent payment -- after all, if they could afford rent, they wouldn't be living at home -- but getting them in the habit of budgeting a certain amount to make "rent" each month helps instill financial discipline.
If parents genuinely don't need the extra money, they can always set aside their child's "rent payments" and later return the funds as the foundation for an emergency savings account.
Parents Need To Prioritize Their Own Retirement
As your children become adults, not only are you wondering where the time went, but you're also nearing the age when retirement planning becomes more critical. To ensure your own future, you simply can't remain open as the Bank of Mom and Dad.
Orman stressed that while parents should encourage their kids to build financial independence, they must also stay focused on their own financial goals -- especially retirement. Think of it this way: You've worked hard to build your financial security, and just as your adult children are in their own self-discovery periods, you have the right to start one of your own.
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